Socializing adult cats

We adopted 2 adult cats, a 3 year old and a 6 year old, just over a year ago. They had been with a rescue group for a few years and were bonded. The younger one can be petted in certain circumstances, but doesn’t come to us, we have to go to him. He frightens easily. The older one appears to have been a feral (clipped ear) and cannot be touched at all, runs away when even approached. At first they spent time with us just hanging out in the same room, but lately they have stayed secluded upstairs and we rarely see them. They will each lick treats out of our hands but that is the extent of our interaction, I am looking for advice on how to socialize them, at least to the point they will stay around us.

 

Socializing adult cats requires patience and positive reinforcement. Here are some steps to help your feline friend warm up to you and potentially other people and pets:

Build Trust:

Create a Safe Space: Provide hiding spots like cat trees or boxes where your cat can retreat if overwhelmed.
Respect Boundaries: Let the cat approach you, don't force interaction. Sit quietly nearby and talk softly.
Positive Reinforcement: Offer treats or gentle petting (on preferred areas like head and chin) when the cat comes near.
Positive Interactions:

Playtime: Engage the cat with interactive toys like feather wands, mimicking prey to stimulate their hunting instincts.
Treat Dispensing Toys: Puzzle feeders or treat-dispensing toys can make mealtimes more stimulating and create a positive association with you.
Calming Voice: Speak softly and reassuringly, avoiding loud or sudden noises.
Gradual Introduction:

New People: If introducing new people, have them sit quietly and offer treats, letting the cat initiate contact.
Other Pets: For introducing other pets, use a slow, gradual approach with separate spaces initially. Look for resources on proper introduction techniques.
Routine is Key: Maintain consistent routines for feeding, playtime, and interaction to create a sense of security.
Stress-Free Environment: Minimize loud noises or sudden changes that might make your cat anxious.
Consider a Feliway Diffuser: These diffusers release pheromones that can help reduce feline stress and anxiety.
Every cat is an individual. Some may take longer to warm up than others. Be patient, consistent, and celebrate small victories. If you have concerns about your cat's behavior, consult a veterinarian or animal behaviorist for further guidance.